How To Make Life Better?

This is indeed a good question to ask. I spent many years continually changing the circumstances of my life, in an effort to make my life better.  All to no avail.  It was like shifting the deck chairs around on the Titanic, trying to fix the problem, but the ship was still going down. So asking again, how to make life better in an ongoing and sustainable way?

Stone sculpture with water behind

Forget about circumstances and focus on frequency

Science now shows us that we are not just a bag of blood and bones but also an intricate network of electrical connections and charges. As such we have an operational frequency. Here in lies the answers to how to make life better.

It Is All About Frequency

The people and circumstances that we attract into our lives depends on our frequency. 

If you have a depressed, down in the dumps, sorry for yourself, complaining, blaming, victim kind of frequency running through your electrical circuits, then you will not attract your best life. At best you attract people and circumstances that are also running at a low frequency.

If you are an optimistic, happy person who sees the good in others, takes on adversity as a challenge and makes others around feel good about themselves, then your electrical circuits will be running at a higher frequency. The higher your frequency the better your life will be.

5 Transformational Life Hacks or Practical Actions on How to Make Life Better.

Hack # 1: How to Make Life Better Through Raising Your Emotional Frequency

Below is a scale of emotional states.  If you are predominantly experiencing  emotions from the bottom of the scale you will be operating in a low vibrational frequency.  You can raise your frequency by lifting your emotional setting up the scale. 

To do this, first become aware of your emotions.  Stop a few times through your day and see if you can name the emotion you are experiencing in that moment. If it is hard to identify your emotions find someone who is more emotionally savvy, and who can help you get started. 

If need be, talk with someone (friend, doctor, therapist) and seek help with any emotions that overwhelm you. Acknowledging your emotions won't hurt you but suppressing them can. Emotions, as the name suggests are in motion and tend to move on when acknowledged or shared. 

Emotional Guidance Scale (from the book Ask and It Is Given by Ester and Jerry Hicks)

  1. Joy/ Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. Overwhelm
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness
cover image of the book ask and it is given

Only move your emotional setting a few rungs at a time.  It is not possible to leap from the bottom of the scale to the top.  Move slowly up, getting used to new emotions in small steps on the way. 

Be patient, to shift from the bottom of the scale to the top can take years.  With constant awareness, practice and sharing it can happen.

Hack # 2: How to Make Life Better by Being in the Present Moment

Take time twice a day to stop, breath slower, breath deeper, relax your body, stop your mind from obsessive thinking and sink into a state of present moment awareness or what Eckhart Tolle calls NOW.

If you meditate then do that.  If you do not meditate here is a simple way to achieve a present moment state:

Go out into the garden, a nearby park, a beach or nature in any form. Take your shoes off and stand on the earth looking in one particular direction. When a nature setting is not possible, your home or office will do. 

Now spend 5 minutes focusing on each of the following 3 senses:

Sight: spend 5 minutes looking in the one direction and noticing everything that you can see. The grass, the trees, the clouds, the horizon and on and on.  You will be amazed at how much you can see when you get present and really notice.

Sound: Spend the next 5 minutes noticing everything you can hear. Birds singing, wind in the trees, hum of the traffic, tick of the clock etc.  Again it is interesting how much you can hear when you stop and listen.

Feeling/sensing: Spend the next 5 minutes noticing everything you can feel. The warmth of the sun on your skin, the feel of your feet on the ground, the ache in your back or the breeze on your face.  Things you only notice when you get present in the NOW moment.

This exercise will bring you into a profound state of being present in the NOW because it stops your mind from thinking when it is focusing on everything that is happening in the present. If your mind has trouble and keeps pushing in and taking you off task, simply bring yourself back through noticing what you see, hear or feel.

How to make life better?

Do some form of present moment awareness every day.

It is through consistency in present moment awareness that you will find the portal to your Best Life.

Eckhart Tolle on utube

Hack # 3: How Life Gets Better when you stop complaining

Complaining is a low frequency activity. 

I invite you to do a little experiment:

Quietly become the observer when you are in social or work settings.  Notice the conversations.  Is there a lot of complaining? Are there certain people who are doing the complaining?  Notice if you do a lot of complaining yourself.

Now move to a second level of observation.  How do you feel when there is a lot of complaining going on? Do you feel uplifted or drained? Interested or bored? What do you notice?

Through doing this observation experiment you will develop an awareness of your own and others tendency to complain. 

Complaining is a low frequency activity.  Cease the complaining habit and your life will get better.

When you notice yourself complaining, try shifting the conversation to more joyful and humourous topics.

Joy and humour are antidotes for complaining in that they will immediately raise the frequency.

Hack # 4: Measure Your Life on Your Actual Rather Than Your Ideal

This is a shift in perception that will immediately make you feel better about yourself and your life.

Most people have a tendency to measure how they are doing on the ideal that they have for their life.  We all have ideals like we want to own our own house, get that job we aspire to, find that perfect love relationship, compete in a certain sports event etc. We tend to measure how we are doing in our lives as to whether we have achieved our ideal or not.

Now the thing about measuring how you are doing on your ideal is that your ideal is always moving out in front and you never actually get to it. You may achieve certain things you have been aspiring to but you will find before you get there that you already have a new ideal out ahead. With this way of measuring how you are doing, you will always be left feeling like you haven't quite made it. You haven't quite achieved what you want to.

Stop now and bring to mind all the things that you have aspired to and achieved.  In fact take a piece of paper and write down everything you have done and achieved.  If you are suffering from a low self esteem this can be hard to do so just take your time and remember the little things.  It might be something like:  I have learnt how to cook 5 meals and I cook on 5 nights a week. I have signed up to a computer class. I have joined a yoga class. I have built my own tiny house.  I have been in a relationship for 3 years.  I saved up and taken a trip to Morocco, I joined the bike group or planted a garden. 

Keep writing, keep remembering and keep adding to your paper.  Once you get started you will find you have actually done a lot.

Now measure how you are doing on whats on your paper.

The Actual rather than the Ideal.

Hack # 5: Expect the Best and Life Delivers the Best

It is said about fear that it is expecting the worst outcome to be the most likely one to occur. So many people are living their lives in this low frequency state of fear and anxiety expecting the worst.  This is habit and it can change.

Instead cultivate the art of expecting the best in life. This can be done by creating affirmations and starting your day by saying them out loud.  All the cells in your body, your consciousness and the world around you hear these affirmations and respond.  This puts you into a higher frequency and better things are attracted into your life.

Examples of life affirming affirmations:

I am happy, healthy and at peace within myself

I find joy in every moment

Opportunities come my way

My life flows easily and effortlessly

I have everything I need

I trust I will know what I need to know when I need to know it

I am confident, I trust myself, I believe in myself

My life unfolds perfectly

I enjoy loving and respectful relationships

I am loved and supported 

I am worthy of love, abundance and all good things

I surround myself with love and light

Take these, or make up some of your own, and write them on a card that you keep on your bedside table.  When you wake up say each affirmation out loud three times. Do this every morning and experience your life becoming better. 

At first when you say an affirmation you may feel it is a long way from the reality of your life and feel what you are saying is not true.

Persist regardless and eventually you will start to accept and believe what you are telling yourself. 

Affirmations raise your frequency and create a state of expecting the best and the best will follow.

Best Life Resources:  Best Life Ever ExplorationThings You Love To Do  Gratitude Journal.  The Power of ImaginationScience of Getting Rich

Meet Lorraine and check out how she found her Best Life. 

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